Just say YES!!!

The moments that tend to scare us are the ones that build, strengthen, and define us. Chase that feeling. Seek it. Find it. Welcome it.

The moments that tend to scare us are the ones that build, strengthen, and define us. Chase that feeling. Seek it. Find it. Welcome it.

I met my wife, Tami, at Abercrombie & Fitch. It was the first place I worked when I moved to Los Angeles. I walked in, went straight to the counter, and asked the beautiful blonde behind the counter, “y’all hiring?”

She said, “yes!”

That was the first time that she said yes to me, but when she told me that she was the manager and that I was hired, she actually didn’t have the authority to do so.

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I still laugh at that moment, because that’s the woman I fell in love with, and it’s still who she is today. The one who isn’t afraid to have fun. The mother who teaches our kids every day how to laugh, dream, and seek adventure.

The good news is I still got the job, but the even better news is that she continued to say yes to me. Yes to adventures. Yes to fun. Yes to marriage. Yes to family. Just yes.

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She has taught me a lot of lessons over the last 12 years of our relationship (and 7 years of marriage). She’s taught me patience, compassion, loyalty, bravery, commitment, love – all things I thought I knew, but she proved there was more. That we can all search deeper within ourselves and demand more.

The lessons of our marriage have taught me how to succeed in life and in love. You have to be willing to say yes to the things that scare you. Not that she was scared of me, but maybe that she was scared of falling in love or me not being who she saw at first. The point is – The moments that tend to scare us are the ones that build, strengthen, and define us. Chase that feeling. Seek it. Find it. Welcome it.

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My incredible wife, Tami, has encouraged and driven me to say yes to opportunity – to always follow my heart and gut. I can promise you that every opportunity I’ve been afraid of that she’s pushed me to has paid off. Being a naïve 20 year old led me to her, but once I found her, I knew I would never let her go.

Below are my vows from our wedding. These words have never wavered in 7 years, and I intend to lead and also follow her in this incredible life that we have for decades to come. I love you, Tami, and I am so grateful for the lessons you’ve taught me and how to be a better husband, father, and friend.

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“Tami, I remember the first day that we spent together. Standing at the front of the store as people walked by us, we were talking about our dreams, our friends and family. Your passion for all of these made me fall in love with you and I continue to fall in love with you every day. And here we are now, in front of our friends and family with nothing but our dreams.

You have become not just my lover and companion but my best friend. Today, in front of God and our loved ones I vow to be the man that you fell in love with. I promise to love and cherish you, to keep you close and with faithfulness, to always support and encourage you in your career, to make you laugh and hold you when you cry. I promise to be a loving and nurturing father and a man of God. I promise to hold you to the highest respect and honor you as you deserve, and continue to be your best friend for the rest of our lives.”

I love you forever, Princess.

Buddy

7 years and counting…

“That’s him. He’s the one I’ve been waiting for.”

This morning you woke me with a kiss, the same way you have for the past seven years. You said, “Happy Anniversary”, and I smiled and looked at you with sleepy eyes and asked if our life was what you imagined it would be. We both laughed.

The day I met you my heart recognized you. It whispered to me, “That’s him. He’s the one I’ve been waiting for”. We were just a couple of kids with big dreams and an unapologetic love. We grew up together…I mean, we are still growing up together.

When we promised to stand side by side together in life, we knew it wouldn’t always be easy or fun. We couldn’t have imagined the tears life would bring, or dreamed of the love and laughter we’d share.

My heart didn’t think I could love you more, yet everyday you find new ways to show me it can.  I get lost sometimes in being a Mommy. The hand you use to reach for is now being held by five chubby little fingers. The Kisses I freely gave to you often now are used to heal boo boos on our active toddler or cover the face of our smiling baby. I’ve traded sexy lingerie for oversized tshirts and your old sweats. Our bed is now full of puppies and babies. Our days are spent in different worlds. Mine is filled with diapers, dancing, and make believe, while yours is hard at work toward your dreams and our future.  Instead of spontaneous weekend getaways or romantic dinners, I’m thrilled just to snuggle up beside you on our couch and watch an uninterrupted episode of Master Chef.

When I stood in front of our family and friends seven years ago today and promised my love to you for a lifetime, I thought I knew what I was doing. I thought I knew what love was. You’ve showed me that love is ever changing. Our hearts continuously growing. Love is more than flowers, date nights and romance. Love is choosing everyday to put someone else’s needs above our own. Love is seeing the best in someone even when they are at their worst. Love is waking up everyday next to your best friend. It is seeing the person you fell in love with in the faces of our children. It is crying so hard you can’t breath and trusting your partner to catch your tears. Love is laughing with every part of your body. It is silly songs and inside jokes. Love is feeling home when wrapped in your arms.

This morning I asked you if our life is what you imagined it would be. I laughed because it is beyond anything I could have dreamed. Happy Anniversary. I love you.

T

Dreaming Without Sleep

On any given night, you can find me restless and twisted in a pretzel shape, clinging to the edge of my California King bed, and buried under a pile of cuteness. On my feet lies…

On any given night, you can find me restless and twisted in a pretzel shape, clinging to the edge of my California King bed, and buried under a pile of cuteness. On my feet lies our toe biting chihuahua, Buttercup. Stretched horizontally across the bed with his head rested on my hip, leg, or arm, is my sleep talking – sometimes walking – toddler. Snuggled close to my chest with his arms and legs wrapped around me tight is my night nursing infant with his two new razor sharp teeth.  

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In the distance, I hear a familiar sound. It is the gentle sound of someone breathing. The sound of rest. Sleep. Somewhere on the far side of the bed, my husband sleeps peacefully with his legs stretched comfortably and his mind turned off of the night. His arms are wrapped around a pillow, where not long ago I once laid. 

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I look across our bed full of babies, and I smile at my sleeping man. One day soon, I will again be wrapped in his arms asleep. My toddler will soon be a boy who will want to sleep in his own room and my infant will grow to big for my arms and instead sleep comfortably in his own bed. My 12 year old chihuahua will one day not be there to bite my toes when I stretch my legs. My California King bed will one day not feel so small.

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As I lay here twisted on my side, covered in sleeping cuties within an arms reach away from the love of my life, I will say a simple prayer of thanks for a life I never dreamed and don’t know how I deserved. I will cherish my crowded bed and my overflowing heart. I will be grateful for the restless night knowing I get to soak up the quiet moments of my babies growing while they sleep. Tonight, I may be restless but that’s ok when real life is better than my dreams. 

xoxo,
Tami

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A letter to my toddler on his first day of school

“What do you want to be when you grow up?”

“A scuba diver” you proudly proclaim.

The fact that you don’t know how to swim hasn’t crossed your mind. The details to any destination never deter you. You don’t care how we get to our adventures, you are only concerned with how soon we can get started. Always waiting with bright eyes and anticipation for what new fun is waiting up ahead.

You are a dreamer. Together we get lost in pirate ship explorations across the living room. We escape Charlie Monster chasing us, hide in blanket made forts, and always find an excuse to bake cookies or dance. We tell stories together every night and at three years old you still like to fall asleep in my arms.

You are my baby. Always. You are the boy who made me a Mommy. As you grew bigger, I grew stronger with a newfound strength and love. I teach you new things everyday, but you too are a teacher to me. You’ve taught me to seek fun in the mundane. To be patient. And just when I think I’ve mastered patience, you yet again test me. You’ve awakened the child in me with your playfulness. Your innocence reminds me to see the good in everyone and everything.

For almost three years my days have been consumed by you. Together we conquered countless playground, museums and Starbucks. It was you and me kid. Everyday. Then God gave us a new partner in crime. A mini version of you and your Daddy. You fought for my attention at first, but now it seems I sometimes am fighting for yours.

In the mornings, instead of kissing me first you sneak over to your brother for cuddles. You smile proudly each time you make him giggle. After you eat breakfast you go to your toys now instead of to me. At the playground you no longer need me to entertain you. You make friends with everyone you meet. These moments remind me of words from strangers when I used to carry you as a baby on my hip. “Cherish these moments because you will blink one day, and your baby will be grown”.

I’m proud to have given you confidence to fearlessly take on the world. I giggle with pride each time I hear you lost in play, knowing I helped awaken your imagination.  Every time you help your brother, Daddy, friend or even a stranger, I know that it is the kindness I’ve shown you that hopefully you will continue to show others.

Tomorrow you start preschool. My throat grows a knot just thinking about it. As I write this I take a slow breath to slow down my mind. You are ready. You are excited. I, on the other hand, will take a little longer to adjust.

Tonight I’ll hold you closer. I’ll breath in your toddler smell, soak up ever snuggle and kiss, and I’ll watch you drift into your dreams. In the darkness, I’ll still see my baby who somehow overnight has grown into a little boy. I’ll wipe a couple tears from my cheek and silence my wandering mind. I will lay with you in the darkness as if I can somehow slowdown the morning light.

Tomorrow, you will take your first steps in the world without me. You will learn, play, laugh, get frustrated, happy and do a million fun new things. I will learn to live with my heart outside of me. The time will feel too short for you, but the seconds will drag on like hours for me. Over yogurt, I’ll ask you about your day and soak up the moments that I missed.

Tomorrow you start preschool, and even though you don’t yet know how to swim, I know that won’t stop you from diving right in.

I love you,

Mommy

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CAPTAIN UNDERPANTS: A Kid’s BRIEF Review! (Get it? Brief…lol)

In today’s vlog, Buddy takes Tucker to see Captain Underpants, starring Kevin Hart, Ed Helms, and Tom Middleditch! See what they think when they meet Tami and Tate at the Cheesecake Factory for the final thoughts!

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