The moments that tend to scare us are the ones that build, strengthen, and define us. Chase that feeling. Seek it. Find it. Welcome it.
I met my wife, Tami, at Abercrombie & Fitch. It was the first place I worked when I moved to Los Angeles. I walked in, went straight to the counter, and asked the beautiful blonde behind the counter, “y’all hiring?”
She said, “yes!”
That was the first time that she said yes to me, but when she told me that she was the manager and that I was hired, she actually didn’t have the authority to do so.
I still laugh at that moment, because that’s the woman I fell in love with, and it’s still who she is today. The one who isn’t afraid to have fun. The mother who teaches our kids every day how to laugh, dream, and seek adventure.
The good news is I still got the job, but the even better news is that she continued to say yes to me. Yes to adventures. Yes to fun. Yes to marriage. Yes to family. Just yes.
She has taught me a lot of lessons over the last 12 years of our relationship (and 7 years of marriage). She’s taught me patience, compassion, loyalty, bravery, commitment, love – all things I thought I knew, but she proved there was more. That we can all search deeper within ourselves and demand more.
The lessons of our marriage have taught me how to succeed in life and in love. You have to be willing to say yes to the things that scare you. Not that she was scared of me, but maybe that she was scared of falling in love or me not being who she saw at first. The point is – The moments that tend to scare us are the ones that build, strengthen, and define us. Chase that feeling. Seek it. Find it. Welcome it.
My incredible wife, Tami, has encouraged and driven me to say yes to opportunity – to always follow my heart and gut. I can promise you that every opportunity I’ve been afraid of that she’s pushed me to has paid off. Being a naïve 20 year old led me to her, but once I found her, I knew I would never let her go.
Below are my vows from our wedding. These words have never wavered in 7 years, and I intend to lead and also follow her in this incredible life that we have for decades to come. I love you, Tami, and I am so grateful for the lessons you’ve taught me and how to be a better husband, father, and friend.
“Tami, I remember the first day that we spent together. Standing at the front of the store as people walked by us, we were talking about our dreams, our friends and family. Your passion for all of these made me fall in love with you and I continue to fall in love with you every day. And here we are now, in front of our friends and family with nothing but our dreams.
You have become not just my lover and companion but my best friend. Today, in front of God and our loved ones I vow to be the man that you fell in love with. I promise to love and cherish you, to keep you close and with faithfulness, to always support and encourage you in your career, to make you laugh and hold you when you cry. I promise to be a loving and nurturing father and a man of God. I promise to hold you to the highest respect and honor you as you deserve, and continue to be your best friend for the rest of our lives.”
I love you forever, Princess.